charleville
21-11-2006, 04:04 PM
Having been married successfully for 32 years, the only bit of marital advice that I can give anyone based on my own experience is to marry someone who has low expectations. # ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D
A lot of our expectations are crushed, of course, when a relationship fails or even just teeters a bit. # :( #People often really don’t realize that they are trying to hold on to a relationship that is over, finito, ended, kaput – or perhaps just needing a bit of space for a while. # :-[ # People do such silly things :( - for example, almost 25% of all stalking offenders are ex-partners and indeed 49% are acquaintances, in every form that such a description takes. # :-/ #(Just to round off the stats, the majority of offenders are males –88%- and the majority of victims are females – 77%.)
This is pretty serious stuff. #:( #There is even a term used to describe the condition of ex-partners who cannot let go – it is called “Obsessive Ex Syndrome”. #:(
I have always thought that the best way to achieve closure on a dying relationship is to find a new one, just as exciting and perhaps a little different to the old one – and as quickly as possible so that the old is remembered for what was good and the new is enjoyed as being even better. #:)
But who am I to talk? #:-[ #I have to confess that after such a brilliantly enjoyable and successful winter season fishing Mud Island at nights this year, I have been suffering just a bit of “obsessive ex syndrome” myself. # :'( :'( :'( # I am continually wanting to re-live all of those glorious nights with all those great catches of squire and snapper and Jew and tailor and cod and …. – well, you know what I mean. #:'( :'( :'(
In fact, I have been pining every day over the past few weeks :'( #- #every day looking forlornly at the weather forecast hoping for more calm night weather so that I can continue to be seduced in the dark of night by the secret scents, oceanic massages and gentle loving caresses of my beloved Mud Island #::) – especially at the end of a 30lb line with a 40lb leader. #;D ;D ;D
Take yesterday. #I was in raptures all day just anticipating the great night that I would have at Mud Island last night - #a tolerable winds forecast - #a mid evening high tide and a new moon. #What could be better?! #8-)
It started #with an utterly intoxicatingly beautiful sunset over Mud which promised eternal bliss. # :)
Unfortunately though, eternal bliss was not to be. #:-[ #I was bounced around by a brisk easterly all night and did not see a fish’s scale all night. I pulled up the anchor at 11pm with my total catch #for the whole night being a baby shovel-nose ray and a jelly fish that that wrapped itself around my line. # #:'(
I finally had to concede that my night time secretive, solitary, possessive relationship #with Mud Island ended last night #:'( #– or at least, perhaps our relationship should have a cooling off spell for a few months . #:-[
Perhaps until next snapper season. #:) :) :)
But what to do? #I still have such a pining – and lots of bait left-over. #Perhaps, I could seek a new and different relationship….. #;)
So I launched at 7.15 am this morning at Manly to see if there was new life for me, dare I hope, new joy, #at the Harry Atkinson artificial reef. #8-)
I have to say that I was not all that optimistic as I have never had much success at Harry’s. # :-/ In fact my best catches there have been modestly sized (but legal) tuskies. #However, with no crustacean bait on board, I was not expecting any success in that regard. # :-/
Of course, the other downside about Harry’s is that at most times, weekend or week-day, it is like a car-park there # #>:(– unlike weeknights at gorgeous, rapturous, blessed Mud Island. #:-*
Today I was lucky – I had the place to myself until mid-morning when one other boat came along, asked of my success, and then anchored in a couple of different places, both of which were very politely some distance away from me. #So, #I was happy. #:)
However, Harry’s did show me that there is life for me after Mud-at-nights. # :) :) :) #I experienced plenty of action from school mackeral as shown below. #:) :) :) #All fish were caught on pilchards on #gangs of four 4/0 Mustads with 40 lb leader on a 30lb line. #Modest lead was used to get the line on the bottom.
In fact I lost about six or seven fish on my 6500B bait-runner which was rigged in bait-runner mode with unweighted pillies on the same rig as above. #:-? #What was happening was that the baits would be hit hard but the fish would drop the hooks. #On two occasions, the hits were so hard that the line over ran the reel and I had a couple of big bunches of grapes to sort out. #:(
This raises a question which I seek advice on please. #I have only had a bait-runner for a few months and have yet to learn all of its nuances.
Given that the hits on the floating bait-runner rig were so hard but unproductive, is this a situation where the bait-runner function is counter-productive? #That is, should I just rig the bait-runner for normal drag when I set out floaters for mackeral? #All advice gratefully received, thanks.
Anyway, I think that I have had my last night at Mud for a few months. #:D #Time to renew my relationship with sunscreen, fishing gloves, my Adaptacap, and long sleeve shirts. #8-) 8-)
Ah – Mud Island, I gave you
All the best nights of my life,
All the dreamy, sunny weekdays,
All the moonlit winter nights,
And though I never knew
The magic of making it with you,
That I thank the Lord for giving me
The little bit I knew,
And I was always just one step behind you.
(with apologies to songwriter Mac Davis) #;D ;D ;D
Oh well, #time to work the eastern bay in the mornings – a new fishing relationship begins… # :)
Gee, tomorrow morning is looking good! # :) :) :) :) :) :) :) :) :)
A lot of our expectations are crushed, of course, when a relationship fails or even just teeters a bit. # :( #People often really don’t realize that they are trying to hold on to a relationship that is over, finito, ended, kaput – or perhaps just needing a bit of space for a while. # :-[ # People do such silly things :( - for example, almost 25% of all stalking offenders are ex-partners and indeed 49% are acquaintances, in every form that such a description takes. # :-/ #(Just to round off the stats, the majority of offenders are males –88%- and the majority of victims are females – 77%.)
This is pretty serious stuff. #:( #There is even a term used to describe the condition of ex-partners who cannot let go – it is called “Obsessive Ex Syndrome”. #:(
I have always thought that the best way to achieve closure on a dying relationship is to find a new one, just as exciting and perhaps a little different to the old one – and as quickly as possible so that the old is remembered for what was good and the new is enjoyed as being even better. #:)
But who am I to talk? #:-[ #I have to confess that after such a brilliantly enjoyable and successful winter season fishing Mud Island at nights this year, I have been suffering just a bit of “obsessive ex syndrome” myself. # :'( :'( :'( # I am continually wanting to re-live all of those glorious nights with all those great catches of squire and snapper and Jew and tailor and cod and …. – well, you know what I mean. #:'( :'( :'(
In fact, I have been pining every day over the past few weeks :'( #- #every day looking forlornly at the weather forecast hoping for more calm night weather so that I can continue to be seduced in the dark of night by the secret scents, oceanic massages and gentle loving caresses of my beloved Mud Island #::) – especially at the end of a 30lb line with a 40lb leader. #;D ;D ;D
Take yesterday. #I was in raptures all day just anticipating the great night that I would have at Mud Island last night - #a tolerable winds forecast - #a mid evening high tide and a new moon. #What could be better?! #8-)
It started #with an utterly intoxicatingly beautiful sunset over Mud which promised eternal bliss. # :)
Unfortunately though, eternal bliss was not to be. #:-[ #I was bounced around by a brisk easterly all night and did not see a fish’s scale all night. I pulled up the anchor at 11pm with my total catch #for the whole night being a baby shovel-nose ray and a jelly fish that that wrapped itself around my line. # #:'(
I finally had to concede that my night time secretive, solitary, possessive relationship #with Mud Island ended last night #:'( #– or at least, perhaps our relationship should have a cooling off spell for a few months . #:-[
Perhaps until next snapper season. #:) :) :)
But what to do? #I still have such a pining – and lots of bait left-over. #Perhaps, I could seek a new and different relationship….. #;)
So I launched at 7.15 am this morning at Manly to see if there was new life for me, dare I hope, new joy, #at the Harry Atkinson artificial reef. #8-)
I have to say that I was not all that optimistic as I have never had much success at Harry’s. # :-/ In fact my best catches there have been modestly sized (but legal) tuskies. #However, with no crustacean bait on board, I was not expecting any success in that regard. # :-/
Of course, the other downside about Harry’s is that at most times, weekend or week-day, it is like a car-park there # #>:(– unlike weeknights at gorgeous, rapturous, blessed Mud Island. #:-*
Today I was lucky – I had the place to myself until mid-morning when one other boat came along, asked of my success, and then anchored in a couple of different places, both of which were very politely some distance away from me. #So, #I was happy. #:)
However, Harry’s did show me that there is life for me after Mud-at-nights. # :) :) :) #I experienced plenty of action from school mackeral as shown below. #:) :) :) #All fish were caught on pilchards on #gangs of four 4/0 Mustads with 40 lb leader on a 30lb line. #Modest lead was used to get the line on the bottom.
In fact I lost about six or seven fish on my 6500B bait-runner which was rigged in bait-runner mode with unweighted pillies on the same rig as above. #:-? #What was happening was that the baits would be hit hard but the fish would drop the hooks. #On two occasions, the hits were so hard that the line over ran the reel and I had a couple of big bunches of grapes to sort out. #:(
This raises a question which I seek advice on please. #I have only had a bait-runner for a few months and have yet to learn all of its nuances.
Given that the hits on the floating bait-runner rig were so hard but unproductive, is this a situation where the bait-runner function is counter-productive? #That is, should I just rig the bait-runner for normal drag when I set out floaters for mackeral? #All advice gratefully received, thanks.
Anyway, I think that I have had my last night at Mud for a few months. #:D #Time to renew my relationship with sunscreen, fishing gloves, my Adaptacap, and long sleeve shirts. #8-) 8-)
Ah – Mud Island, I gave you
All the best nights of my life,
All the dreamy, sunny weekdays,
All the moonlit winter nights,
And though I never knew
The magic of making it with you,
That I thank the Lord for giving me
The little bit I knew,
And I was always just one step behind you.
(with apologies to songwriter Mac Davis) #;D ;D ;D
Oh well, #time to work the eastern bay in the mornings – a new fishing relationship begins… # :)
Gee, tomorrow morning is looking good! # :) :) :) :) :) :) :) :) :)